"It only makes sense to me that God is a woman." - Jim Morrison

Men who Suck Cock: A Question of Taste

As a humiliatrix, I encounter all types sessions and one of my favorites is forced bi - this is when I humiliate a man by making him perform oral sex on another man for sexual gratification. The gratification in question is usually mine, but I have to assume that there must be some pay off to the act or I would never get him to agree to do it in the first place.

You're probably asking yourself in that case, what the sexual orientation is of the man who would take a penis - a real penis - into his mouth at my prompting yet identifies himself as straight. (We'll leave dildos out of this discussion for the sake of clarity.) The short answer is "Who cares?" I think our society is too hung up on labeling people and things to make sense of them, a la Gestalt. The long answer however, if we insist on giving things labels, is a bit more complicated...

Ask any man, married or single, who has had sexual contact with another man for their Domme what his orientation is and he'll say straight. It's the act of having the Domina present during the act that absolves him from any conscious choice. And since he was "forced" to perform said sexual act, his identity remains intact. In his mind, he is straight, just into the humiliation and or total submission aspect of the scene.

Ask a man who has had or fantasizes about having sex with a Transsexual Pre-op female and he'll likely say he just enjoys something different every once in a while. I mean, after all, a transexual is the best of both worlds; she is a woman with her own real life "strap on". You can imagine the rush feasting his eyes on a beautiful, curvaceous female while enjoying her other natural endowment must be, particularly for a man who probably has access to countless women and is bored with conventional sex. This man would consider himself straight because he was not with a man at all. It's the novelty, the cognitive dissonance that excites him in this instance.

I had a 23 year old man ask me recently if being sexually attracted to TS's made him gay. I don't believe this makes him gay. A gay person is one who enjoys a relationship with a member of the same sex, not just sexual gratification from them. Also, TS's generally consider themselves straight members of the sex of their choice inside (whether their outside matches or not) and they are usually attracted to members of their opposite sex. Straight members of the opposite sex who accept and love them as the sex they identify themselves. But this wasn't the question.

The question was what is the sexual orientation of a man who will suck a cock whether commanded to or not.

In my experience, there are men who list 'no men' as one of their hard limits before a scene, but will suck a dildo no problem. Real cock however, is out of the question. There are other men who are experimental and will try anything when he's hot and bothered. Real cock, though probably not his cup of tea, might be an experience he could be persuaded to try under the right circumstances, but it may be only that one time. There are still other men who have been curious about cock but probably won't go there because the fantasy is more exciting than the idea of some dude's sweaty nutsack bouncing off of his chin.

On the other hand, there are men who are so submissive that if their Mistress insists they perform oral on another man, they will do it because they don't want to displease her. There are men who can only do it if there is a feminine buffer facilitating the scene; they're not uncomfortable sucking a cock, just not on a one-on-one basis. It has to be part of the scene or it won't work. Then, there are the men who enjoy cock but are in denial about their desires and use women like myself to pretend they don't. This latter category I consider bisexual, the rest of them, a very tough call. The main thing I have learned is that there are as many reasons for a non-gay man to suck another man's cock as there are men who do it.

I know, complicated, right? This is why we should broaden our minds and stop relying so much on labels to make sense of things. I personally love playing with a man who is open-minded and strong (yes, submission is strength) enough to allow himself to enjoy all that life has to offer. Whether it's for my amusement or not.

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